The psychological impact of over-defensive interpersonal

With the development of society, the individual more and more intense competition between, there are always some people lost, along with its own personality, family and social impact of multiple factors, some people will have a timid and very strong inferiority easily lead to nervousness, irritability, anxiety or depression, psychological balance to achieve, they often over-used means of defense, will be dissatisfied with their own projects to others, the "I hate myself," passed as "other people hate I "to form the working and living in the" psychological over-defensive. " For example, just to participate in the work of Miss Sand, in the work of many problems encountered, with a total fear of other people that she "stupid" at all times guard against others in words and deeds, and thus very low self-esteem and worries. This is a "psychological defense over" the role of mechanisms.

Psychology studies have shown that whatever their own self-awareness and the closer we get to the actual situation, the performance of the less self-defensive behavior, the stronger the ability to social adaptation and vice versa is not. For over-defensive, and others can accept the first two, but over time it will avoid much of. And over-defensive, while others think it is looked down on him, in order to alleviate the suffering of their own harm others again. Such a "vicious circle", not only damage their own mental health, but also interpersonal relations into a rigid, leading to its own social maladjustment. Journey in life, are covered with flowers is not easy, if dead, low mood, feelings of depression, abnormal mental, psychological defense over a long period of frustration, regret, depression, boredom, a state of sadness, not only affect mood and quality of life, and harmful to physical and mental health.

To prevent excessive psychological defense, it should be noted the following four points:

1, is to cultivate self-awareness and self-acceptance, objective assessment of others, a comprehensive look at the advantages and disadvantages of their own to find their own shortcomings, to correctly handle the relationship between success and failure.

2, according to the specific circumstances of their own environment and not ambitious to establish a line with their goals, and give full play to the self-advantage, the satisfaction of doing their own thing, in order to balance.

3, attention should be paid to the establishment of good interpersonal relationships between colleagues should be honest to avoid too much jealousy psychological, more experienced people to learn to ask and strive to overcome low self-esteem, negative emotional cowardice.

4, find excuses to console oneself, is that when their needs can not be adverse to meet the emotional, in order to eliminate or reduce the sense of boredom and annoyance, not something intended to vilify, to self-comfort, to seek psychological balance, thinking and behavior in order to prevent deviation. Like the fable of the fox said, had racked his brains to do everything possible to get a high wall of that grape, but ultimately unable to do so. Comfort while walking and then turned himself: "It is sour grapes!" Not sweet in the case of grapes, only to eat but hard sour lemon sweet lemon said, intended to beautify the shopping list. The way this kind of psychological defense that can help you set loose their unattainable goal to pursue, so that their disappointment, discontent of balance and ease, to exercise their own more mature and strong.