Fourth factors may affect our character

Psychologists have guess that affect our character may be the parents (especially mothers), friends, and genes. However, these factors can not yet answer all the questions. University of California sociologist Catherine concho, said, "brothers and sisters, is our lifelong partner." Psychologists are now beginning to study the interactions between brothers and sisters, this relationship may affect our character may be the first four factors.

Although scientists have studied too many families with children, but mostly limited to the impact of birth order on children is a striver --- older children, a child who is a traitor, caught in the middle child is a straggler. However, the situation has changed. Scientists are beginning to study the interaction between brothers and sisters.

1, the children continue to conflict with each other how to teach them social

The researchers first discovered that the brothers and sisters will be a lot of time invested in each other's body, and these activities can teach them some social skills.

When a child 11 years old, they have about 33% of the cousins who spend their spare time --- than friends, parents, teachers and even their own time spent to make more. Last year, study says longer minors would still be a week to spend 10 hours and siblings with the activities, although they have begun to feel their life trajectory.

Brothers and sisters living together to produce seamless intimate, of course, but at least to a time when harmony.

Specializes in family Laorui Ke Kramer found that 3 to 7-year-old brother and sister to take place between the average hourly 3.5 times of conflict. Canada, a study says that 2 to 4 age group for every 10 minutes between the brother and sister will have more than one of the friction, their frequency in all age groups came out top.

Parents often noisy for children between the headache, but the kids but never learned a lot of things, in particular, and others to learn how to calm the conflict.

"The kids have a social effect each other," University of Pittsburgh psychologist Shaw said, "and friends of different, you always have and their compatriots to live together. Every day you have to learn how to talk with others."

The researchers believe that it is this constant, daily learning, so that brothers and sisters so valuable for the child later on in life provides a preview tool. After all, one person an adult, and always want and partners to establish relationships --- as in the workplace and marriage.

To face their own brothers and sisters, we may keep a stiff face angry, but after things that we always go back to the same under one roof. Come up with a toy may be able to resolve the tensions between brothers. This may be in the future, it will become an office joke, wipe out the embarrassment of the atmosphere among colleagues, or after an argument with a husband to his wife expressed to take the initiative.

2, not my mother's pet child how to get the benefits of

Families with many children, like the court is full of infighting. In such a family, care about the issue most in need of care is perhaps the Zhengchong.

Even though few will admit their own bias, because parents often favor a child feel ashamed. If the bias does exist, may not be the parent's fault.

The family is one where resources are limited. Parents can not help to note seemed most worthy of investment in children. Although parents also often a family's enormous wealth and energy into the process of care for disabled children, but parents are always beautiful and easy to care talented children.

Children will, of course aware of eccentric parents. The beginning, they seemed to be able to adapt parental differential treatment, often eccentric parents will convert all children can enjoy the benefits. "They and the other one said: 'Why do not you ask my mother that we can not go to malls? Because she never say no to you,'" says sociologist concho. Since then, however, not by their parents eccentric child may be a price to pay. "They tend to become even more depressed, self-esteem problems are also more" concho said, "they will feel worthless, they seek to know why."

The adult you are not thinking that has long been out of this predicament? In the workplace, employees instinctively know which would be unfortunate from the boss to blame, this is not a coincidence. When a colleague to be the boss's applause, you will feel hurt, Heart jealousy, this is not a coincidence. This has long had the feeling of the original church you are not the most intelligent way to win support movement of the boss, but the Reds boss in partnership, so that you yourself benefit from the present situation. The idea is that you're not just know.

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